Losing weight is a boring, painful and thrilling journey. Maybe it's easy for you. If that is the case, then I'm happy you don't share in this struggle. For so many of us, it can be socially limiting, confusing, hurtful and gleeful; often all at the same time. Sometimes friends mean well, but just say the darndest things, which instantly whip up the feels, spinning us around like a top, leaving us a tangled, dizzy mess. I didn't even realize how much people's everyday comments on my body bothered me--FOR YEARS. Talk about being out of touch with yourself.
The phrase that currently feels like a punch in the gut?
"You look amazing! How much more weight are you going to lose? You don't want to be too skinny! You're almost as skinny as me!"
And yes, I consciously understand that people are often unintentionally trying to sabotage you to keep you at "their level" of weight or whatever the level may be. Still, nothing twists my emotions tied to food more than that particular ideology.
My mind races; I don't feel too skinny. Am I too skinny? Am I fat, though? Am I good enough? Before I know it, up seems down and my mind races to how good some Moosetracks would taste right then. I know ice cream won't actually help, but it's calling my name. How did ice cream even get involved in this? Why does my own subconscious try to sabotage me? Why are these thoughts taking over my mind?
We aren't always in control of our subconscious.
Think of it more like a free flowing river that ebbs and flows in ways we don't always understand. Riding the waves of the subconscious with no guidance is a tricky way to live. One way to navigate those complex waters of emotion comes from looking inward.
Meditation can help untangle those complex feelings and show you an easier way to deal with the whole, delicious enchilada called life. It's free and requires no prep or physical items, although you can take classes to learn ancient techniques like TM. You don't need anything but a quiet space, a few moments and an open mind. You don't even have to sit with your legs crossed or fingers pinched!
After a little bit of practice, you'll likely find that meditation untangles your complex feelings, showing you what your path looks like in a slightly straighter line. Centering yourself around that peaceful clarity is one of the best tools to help you stay on your plan. It's like recharging your batteries. Solid decisions are easier to make, and the weight of all of those subconscious emotions are lifted, allowing you the precious ability to avoid getting stuck in the same traps, again.
I know that when I meditate everything is easier, because my emotions aren't so tangled! This week, I'm challenging you. Are you up for it?
Meditate at least three times in the next week. Can you do it? Yes you can! Even if it's just for five minutes, sit in a quiet space and try to sit peacefully, without thinking. It's not as hard as you think, I swear. Pick a word and slowly repeat it to yourself. The word peace often works nicely for me. Let your mind float where it goes. Watch whatever thoughts bubble up and let them slip away as you just go back to repeating your word. See where the inner journey takes you and ride the wave. Once you start to untangle those feelings, don't be surprised if that stubborn weight starts to float away, too.
Already practicing? What is your favorite way to meditate? Do people make odd comments about your weight loss that make you crazy? Vent here! I hope you have a great week, little sisters! Always remember that you got this! You can do it!
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