Remembering Karyn: Depression Is Real. Please Get Help If You Need It.

“As humans, regardless of color, age, socio-economic status, gender, and other characteristics, we MUST build each other up rather than tear each other down in order to change the world and create a better place for our children and future generations. As women, it is imperative as well as our duty to love ourselves unconditionally, smile and laugh often, and NEVER allow ANYONE to steal our joy.” -- Chloe Jenkins, 

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Karyn Washington, founder of the blog, For Brown Girls, spent her time building up brown women (and the rest of us) by empowering, uplifting and teaching us that we do better when we pull together than when we tear each other apart.

She was unable to show herself the same kindness when she gave in to a struggle so many of us are familiar with. If you would like to know more about Karyn, and the gifts she so freely gave others, please watch this video. 

I don't know Karyn. But I do know depression and mental illness intimately. Like many others, I've struggled with serious depression (among other things) throughout my life. Depression is a real illness; like cancer and heart disease, mental illness is not only in your head. If you had cancer, you would do everything possible to seek treatment. You should feel no different if you have a mental illness.

While often comforting, prayer will not heal you. Self-medicating with other drugs or alcohol will not heal you. You must seek treatment from a licensed professional. There is no shame. Only help and a way out of the darkness.

If you need help now, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK. For resources in your area, please visit The National Institute For Mental Health. You aren't alone and things will get better. I've been there and I promise, there is a light and it is just around the corner. Tomorrow will be better. Never give up. You are loved.

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  1. Thanks for posting this. Amazing that in the 21st century, mental illness still has this stigma. What a loss of a beautiful woman. We see the violence daily that is the result of mental illness. We need to make seeking help as common as flu shots. Keep up the good work. Love your blog.

  2. Thank you for posting this Kelly. Such a sad day...


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