A Tall Drink of Haterade: The Great Gray Hair Debate



I turned 41 yesterday. I told one of my closer friends that I was planning on letting my hair go naturally silver. I have to get it colored every two weeks, as otherwise my hair is 100% shiny gray.

                   
(This is me on my 41st birthday. I love my red hair. It's a huge part of my identity. But it's such a pain to maintain...See that tiny bit of regrowth along my hairline? That is after about 5 days. I'm not even kidding. Because I know you'll ask, that lipstick- It's Clinique Buttershine in 415.)

After about a week and a half, it looks like my own red hair is floating on top of some kind of magical silver cushion. And it's not cute. (But the shiny, bright underlying silver is really pretty.) My red hair is really tied together with my identity. My red hair is often the only reason people recognize me. I love my red hair. Making a change isn't easy. Especially since if it were up to me, I would keep it this way forever. I guess this is something all bottle redheads face eventually. The skunk or the bottle. It's a hard choice.


It bothers me most when I pull my hair back. It looks like I'm balding. I can't keep up with it. It needs to be colored almost every time I wash it. I suppose I'm lucky that my hair still grows so quickly and is in such great shape. That said, the color has been transitioning for years. I've pretended it's more blond than gray, but it's not. It's silver. Shiny, bright silver. I can't pretend it's not happening anymore. I think I'm even ready to embrace it.

                             
                                   (That's me, with what I believe my silver hair looks like under all of this red.)

Personally, I think gray, silver or white hair can be very striking, and not just on grandmas. It's uber-trendy right now,  so it seems like the perfect time to begin my own gray hair adventure.

When my friend decided to try to talk me out of it, she started a jovial Facebook poll to get me to change my mind. I expected many women to feel the same way she did. But what surprised me most was how people just couldn't believe anyone would chose to go gray.


Women instantly flooded the FB wall with "ewws" and "I would nevers". "Gray hair never lays pretty!" "You'll look at least 40!" "Hold on to your youth as long as you can!" "It never looks good!" "You're too young to let it go!" "I'm staging an intervention!"

Who knew talking about natural hair color would make so many people become so passionately anti-gray?

I get that people are accustomed to seeing older women with white hair in a bun, using a walker--and that they don't want that to be them. At least not yet. Maybe the idea of someone they know in their age bracket embracing natural color makes them nervous. Is my hair choice somehow forcing them to face their own mortality? As if my silver hair somehow means that since I'm becoming a "dried-up old woman" they must not be far away from a similar fate?

Since when did hair color become the deciding factor in how relevant or attractive you are? Who made up that rule? And why can't we break it? Blonds aren't really dumb, redheads aren't all Irish and those with black hair aren't she-devils. Surely, we're beyond all of this, aren't we?

I wasn't prepared for how reactive people would be to something that doesn't affect them whatsoever. Why so much hate for gray hair? Why isn't it a sign of respect? A sign of growth and lessons learned? Or at least a sign of maturity? (Ok. I'm not really that mature, so that last one does not apply to me whatsoever.)


(This is the gray at three weeks. I am now getting the part and around my face colored every two weeks.)

Oddly enough, the few guys that weighed in either were in favor of the gray or didn't really care. Maybe women see silver hair as the end to their vitality. As if it were an end to their sexuality, their spirit or their youth entirely. Maybe in this case the guys are just not tied to having the same youth-related issues that women have. Maybe guys realize we are more than the color of our hair? Or maybe it's just not that important.

What do you think? Has this conversation made me question my silvery resolve? Maybe a little. I do love my red hair and I don't feel like I look like I'm too old for my hair color. But having to color it every two week is getting really annoying. What would you do? Go gray? Go blond, where the difference in color isn't as great? Have you considered letting your hair go gray? How do you think your friends would react? Would you care? I have so many questions. Please share in the comments!



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60 comments:

  1. The women go grey kind of early in my family, but it is a long slow process. I have been coloring for years to improve a drab flat brown that is slowly getting ashy, and I'm a few years behind you in age. I haven't gotten to the point of going natural yet, but will have to think about it seriously in coming years.

    All that said, I don't think you have much choice, with the frequency you are having to color. I like the red on you, but as your photoshop work showed, you could seriously rock silver :D

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  2. I think completely grey hair is absolutely stunning! Ty of Gorgeous in Grey instantly comes to my mind for gorgeous grey haired ladies. The only complaint I've ever heard from friends and family rocking grey is that it's harder to care for since it doesn't always behave the "way it used to" (her words not mine!)

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    1. The texture can be more wiry, I suppose. I don't know what coloring gray hair does vs just gray hair alone. I suppose it might be a bit more smooth, but it's basically the same hair. I think...

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  3. Personally, I really love the long silver hair look and would love to see how you look with it! And really, the upkeep sounds awful for the red. :( Is there a way to remove the red from the grey so you're not growing it out for years?

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    1. I wish. I keep thinking I should just try Color Oops and see what happens, but I think my stylist would kill me. The thing is, I LOVE my hair as it is right now. It's kind of my dream hair. It is MY DREAM HAIR, now that I think about it. But the upkeep is making me NUTS.

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  4. Took me two years to completely grow out my red hair to my natural grey. I did not want to sacrifice my length like so many do when making the transition - I stayed far away from the big chop! Love my hair now! Any way you can slowly change the color from red to an ashier blond or brown that will make the transition less drastic for you? And - best of luck!

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    1. That's my plan, cat mom! Thanks for the luck!

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  5. Red hair is great however I am all about ease. I think the picture you used for an example is brilliant. And I think you wouldn't look like an old lady. LOL if I could get a way with it or any color (natural red hair doesn't take any color boo hoo) I would try it.

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    1. Thank you!! Natural red doesn't take color easily? I never knew that!

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  6. I agree, the upkeep sounds exhausting. I was thinking thou, if you wanted to go for an in-between, why not try strawberry blonde? The silvers wouldn't be nearly as noticeable. I've got medium brown hair with some silver strands (I'm 50) and I haven't done a thing to hide them. I tried to do highlights and lowlights in the past and had the upkeep from hell. I know it's a hard choice. You'll be beautiful regardless on what decision you make :D Just choose what is best for you.

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    1. That is exactly how this whole convo started with my stylist. I asked for her to breakup up the silver band with something so it wouldn't be so obvious. I think going lighter is the only option!

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  7. I am almost 60 and been coloring my hair forever. But I am 2 haircuts away from being totally grey. Everyone loves it! My hair is a very shiny silver. My hairdresser can't believe how good my natural hair feels versus the colored ends. Right now I look kind of weird ombre with brunette ends. But I too got fed up with the maintenance. I want to be my authentic me - so silver here i come.

    My girlfriends arent' thrilled but do grudging admit it looks good. Men love the silver hair. Right now its in a bob but I will grow it out to my shoulders once its all silve.r

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    1. CONGRATS on getting there! That is amazing. I don't know if I would ever make it. It's taken four years to grow it out. I can't imagine waiting another 4. I think I might go the pink to blonde route...

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  8. Hi Kelly Right there with you! I'm a natural redhead but started going gray in my early thirties. I was not having it!! I am now 100% silver under the red and I will have my red hair as long as I am able to maintain it. BUT (there's always a but) for me, it is no more complicated than I just love my red hair. Always have, always will. It took me longer to embrace my fair skin that will never tan and my freckles, but I finally did. I say you do what YOU want to do. Screw what anybody else thinks. Be red, be silver, doesn't matter. You will still be you :)

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    1. It's taken me a long time to embrace my fair skin too! I haven't been a fan of tanning, but I did love bronzers like it was my job for a long time. It's hard when your identity is so wrapped up with your hair color!

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  9. I'm turning 35 next month. I've been graying for about 2 years. I have already decided that once it's more gray than brown, I'm going full on silver. I say make that gray your bitch!

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    1. YES! Make that gray your bitch!!! Love it!

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  10. Kelly, you're gorgeous and will look fab no matter what color your hair is. It sounds like you kind of aren't ready for the plunge. Do whatever feels right to you! You can always go back to red, right? I cannot believe you are 41. Lies.
    And thank you, I WAS going to ask what the lipstick was lol.
    Hope you had a great bday! <3

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    1. Thank you! I waffle from moment to moment. When I see my stylist in a few weeks, we'll figure something out. I bet lighter is the key!

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  11. Such a timely post! I am having that same discussion, only my hair is medium/dark brown with a lot of reddish tones. And you can see the grey hair that doesn't hold color very well after 2-3 weeks. I also feel like the color is looking a bit too fake on me as I grow older (45) and am thinking of going back to light brown with blonde highlights to hide the growth as a way to ease into the natural grey. I am just not sure how to do the switch...... I look forward to seeing your solution!

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    1. I'll be sure to share! I've had a lot of convos with my stylist over the last few months. I think going lighter is the only way to do it!

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  12. I'm in my late 50's (never thought that I would have to write THOSE words!) and if I were to let my hair go gray, I think that I would have to get myself a real grungy/choppy haircut to show that my gray is on purpose, sort of in-your-face-I'm-a-rebel effect.

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    1. Hell ya! Get some great red lipstick, some really fun earrings and love your hair!

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  13. I adore you for taking a strong stance on this. Do what is right for YOU and tell everyone else to kiss it!

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    1. HAHAH! I just don't see why people are so married to stereotypes or telling people they'll be unattractive. It's just a color!

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  14. I would love to know the age of all the woman who are supportive of the go gray group? I just think you are entirely too young to look 20 years older. You will look older regardless of how nice people are when they discuss it.

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    1. Oh you. I will not look 20 years older. You will rage with jealousy...people think I'm super cool and muy sophisticated. Then I'll curse like a sailor and they will be shocked and I'll end up being on a tv show about how gray hair is so cool. It's like being all contrapuntal-y on my face.

      Or I'll hate it and dye it back. We won't know until it happens. Also, you know I love you, you facebook poll starting hater.

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  15. I'm in the same boat except I color my hair with henna so I am unsure how I'm going to go lighter I may end up cutting a lot of it off & then deal with the red/gray line as it grows. I really like it when a woman has long silver hair. I am a natural redhead or used to be. It's hard to say goodbye to the red but I'm going to do it soon as soon as I get my nerve up. Good luck and let us know how it's going

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  16. I've followed you as you've grown out your hair, Kelly, and I think you look great. But I loved the short, sassy, too, as that is what I have. Everyone must BE themselves. Whatever that might be. And you must love what you see in the mirror. So do what's best for you. If you do decide to go the gray route, I'd do some blond highlights now and work into a lighter red to blond as you're growing out. Keep getting lighter and lighter and eventually, you'll be silver! Whatever you do, do it for you and not what others want. Good luck, girlfriend!

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  17. I think it's more about the middle stages when you're not quite grey but have brown and red and grey streaks -- and it just seems disorganized. Darker hair seems to transition more gracefully. My mother had a gorgeous silver shock in her black hair that then just sort of gradually took over her hair. It looked great. I have been graying since my 20s... and my silver shock is not in front, but in the middle of my head -- not very glamorous... I, too, struggle with maintaining my red... but until I know ALL the roots are silver I'm just going to keep working at it. At 50, my gray is still in patches, albeit fairly large ones... If you can find some way to make all of your hair that beautiful silver, I'd say "Go for it!" There might be maintenance for a few years (depending on your rate of graying), but then you'd be done!

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    1. Thank you!!! It's tricky, isn't it? I'm pretty sure mine is all silvery-gray, but who knows? I'll be interesting!

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  18. Darlin', that red hair is your dream color and you wear it well. As time marches on, more and more time is committed to upkeep. I've got a few more miles than you and it takes a lot of effort, time and money to look 'naturally' lovely. My husband once commented that a certain woman had 'let herself go'. I plan on never having him say those words about me.

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    1. Loxy would never....if he valued his life! :-)

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  19. I really fear the day when I start having to think about going gray or coloring. My hair is kind of an odd color, and it really feels like part of my identity too! I look forward to seeing what direction you go in. As I think you know, you are my muse for all things beauty-related!

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    1. HA! I'm always happy to be your beauty guide- you know that, Jess! I bet your hair is great. I can't believe what a difference ditching sulfates has made with my hair. I swear, it's like a new head of hair (after a bit of time!)

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  20. Gradually lightening your hair is definitely the way to go. I dyed my hair black once and couldn't keep it up for even a year. Can you even think of the money you'll save when you've stopped dyeing your hair and how much better condition your hair will be in? If you love the red too much, of course there's nothing wrong with keeping up your color, but I think silver will look great!

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    1. Thank you!!! Black is the HARDEST. Everytime i would dye my short hair black, I instantly wanted it to be blonde. It's a miracle I wasn't bald!

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  21. IMHO, I think there's a difference between silver and grey. I think silver is gorgeous. Gray is wiry and dull. I'm pretty sure that's what I have. Having been blonde all my life (although chemically aided in the last oh-so-many years), I still struggle with the same issue although maybe not quite as frequently. I have to get my hair colored every 7-8 weeks, but my stylist just told me about the ability to get just the front and part done every 36. Never knew that was an option, and I sure as hell wasn't willing to spend $150 every few weeks to fix it. If I knew I had silver hair, I'd seriously consider doing it. Gray? Not so much. So basically, I dunno. I think you'd look HOT with long silver hair!

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    1. Thank you, Robyn! Your hair is gorgeous!! I've seen it in person plenty of times so I know what I'm talking about!! GOR-GEOUS!

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  22. First of all, I think you're beautiful, so whichever color you choose to dye your hair will not poorly affect that. My mother is a natural blonde whose hair became silver when she got older. People LOVE her hair color. It's almost white, and doesn't look like a typical boring grey. Even if your hair was grey, I think you could rock it (if anyone would make grey hair shine, it would be a fabulous beauty addict like yourself). Sometimes people get scared when anyone mentions grey/old age, but I say you do what makes you happy. If keeping your hair red is becoming too much of a commitment to you, try letting your natural hair grow out and see what happens. Do you like the silver? Then take it for a test drive and go all out. It's only hair, and you can dye it back to red if you decide to. :)

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  23. Great topic. It's not that I dislike gray hair, I think it can be stunning on the right person. But it's the growing stage I dislike. To see roots slowly creeping down your hair isn't a pretty site (that's a general "you"). If I'd never colored and it just grew in naturally I'd be white by now but I wouldn't have had to put up with the growing out roots. Now I feel committed to coloring.

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  24. I'm in the same boat as you. I've been coloring my hair red since I was 13 & will be 41 in August. I started going silver @ 22. I'm not ready to give up my color just yet, but I'd place good money down that you can rock the grey like Tracey @ Beauty Reflections!

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  25. Although I am older than you are (57), I recently decided it was time to stop with the bottle - red, just like you! - and let my natural pale silver grow out. I first found a colorist who was willing to do what I asked: a full head of pale ashy highlights and layers in my long hair (because I didn't want to cut it short). 4 hours in the chair and I couldn't be happier! We will probably do one more full-head set of highlights in another month or so and after that just highlight what we need to while my silver grows in. I'm SO pumped about it, and most people love the new look. However - again just like you! - I've had some VERY negative remarks. Just rise above and ROCK that gray, girl!

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  26. At my last hair appointment I went from half dark blue and half magenta to half black and half light pink. Instead of light pink I really wanted white or silver, but I'm a natural dark brunette so my hair resisted white and then when we tried to make it silver/grey. I love the look of silver/grey hair!

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  27. I'm 31 and definitely in Team Gray. I have nothing against people choosing to dye their hair, but I don't think it is fair to make it the standard expectation.

    The mere fact that you use a phrase like "look older" rather than "look your age" illustrates the problem: covering gray hair has become so widespread that people now think that gray hair is something that happens much later than it really does. Based on appearances, one could be forgiving for thinking that people start going gray in their 50s or 60s, since that is the age when it seems that most (middle-class, at least) women stop dyeing and start rocking their natural hair color. But for most people, gray hair starts in their 30s (if not earlier), so unless we're talking about a ten year old going gray, I don't see why gray hair should make someone look 20 years older.

    I have some gray hair (it started in my mid-20s) and it doesn't make me look older, it makes me look my age. And to the extent that people's perception of age is skewed by the popularity of hair dye and other "anti-aging" stuff, I feel no obligation to conform to that misperception.

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  28. I'm approaching sixty, so gray hair is "natural" for me. My color looks good -- a hairstylist at a recent con told me how great it looked! -- so I'm content. It's fine for me.

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  29. I´m a little younger than you, my hair is medium brown with natural highlights and, since my early twenties, (increasing) white, yes, not grey, those I have are very white, very shiny and very thick; some comments I got were about the awesome silver highlights, some others said I was too young to have those, and why not try coloring it?
    Well, this year I did use a semi permanent color wash, I like it, but my hair grows as fast as yours and I don´t think I am up to take the time and money to keep the color, it´s just too much of both and I get bored easily
    So, I´m going back to my early whites; judging by your pictures you will look very beautiful with grey and not old, simply because you are not old, in fact, you look much younger than your age, so most will think you have a very unique taste when it comes to fashion choices and nothing else.
    Post a picture if you decide to do it!
    Q.Beta

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  30. I have been going gray since I was 19, it runs in my family on my fathers side, all my girl cousins did the same thing. I stopped dying my hair about 6 years ago and I'm in my 40's. I went to my great stylist and she took me from home colored auburn red to a silver/gray. Then I got some blond highlights and I like it better. Turns out I am more white than gray and I think it's unique and I get compliments quite often. I think it has to do with the word "gray", seems if you call it platinum or silver, people don't react so much but ultimately, do what makes you happy. That is what is important. If you look up on pinterest white/gray/silver hair you will see great inspiration pics. These women look fabulous.

    I highly suggest you have a stylist who knows what they are doing with color to help you convert over to gray/silver and then find what you like. Go for it!

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  31. I am not yet 40, and have two prominent silver streaks above my temples. I stopped coloring those about 5 years ago, and got lots of compliments on my "blonde highlights". LOL. I stopped coloring my hair at least a year ago, and the tradeoff of upkeep is totally worth it. While I don't have 100% grey to rock yet, I look forward to when I will. Oh, and I encourage everyone to give up the bottle - so much wasted time, effort and attention!

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  32. My father and my grand father both had beautiful salt and pepper hair. Now that my gray hair is coming in, I don't quite know what to think or do. I was getting what I thought would be a really cool gray stripe like Bonnie Rait, but then the wirey bush pig hair attacked. Only in my natural cowlick. Everywhere else, normal gray/silvery hair. I let it go for months and then color it, then get mad because my silvery gray along my hairline, comes out in 2 days. If, and I bet like you, could have it just appear silvery gray, there wouldn't be a problem.. its the letting it come in that makes us nuts. Whatever you decide, I bet you will look great on you.

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  33. I'm in almost exactly the same boat as you.. I'll be 40 this year and am at least 80% platinum, maybe more (I know there is a tiny bit in the back that has color but it's hard to see how much). I started going grey at 23, had a stripe at my temple for many years, then it all went at about 30-35. I also color my hair red.. or at least I did until just recently when I went golden brown (actually I always pull red so it's more like golden auburn). It's awful.. the roots are just never ending and so bright that there is no hiding them, just KABAM bright silver.
    I'm still going to color. I know the grey ages me terribly.. I look ten years younger just from coloring my roots and I'm not ready to look old yet, I'm just not. To add insult to injury I have very warm yellow toned skin.. so that cool silver clashes horribly. Try covering the rest of your hair with a towel or scarf and just let those roots show.. it will give you some idea of how you might look with it grown out.
    You can't color to grey either... so the transition period is horrible. The best solutions I have seen are: cut it all off.. or highlight/lowlight extensively and then balance the grow out the best you can until you get the grey long enough to cut to.. then wean yourself off the lowlights. This looks the best but takes years. You can also go gradually lighter and lighter all over until you are blonde, then the difference between your hair color and the silver is not as extreme. I find it does not look nearly as bad against my new color as it did with the brighter red. I look horrible blonde though, so yeah.

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  34. I don't know your friend, but I think she was WAY out of line. Starting a Facebook poll in an attempt to shame you out of letting your hair go gray? Who does that?! It's your hair. Do whatever you want with it. If I were in your shoes, I would be absolutely livid with said friend. Completely uncalled for and 100 percent immature. I agree with you, Kelly. Women should feel free to embrace aging naturally if they choose to do so. Men can be silver foxes. Why can't we? And if someone chooses not to go gray, that's an equally valid choice. But nobody should be bullied into or out of ANY choice they make about their body or appearance. I think you would look gorgeous regardless of what you decide to do with your hair.

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  35. I'm older and go back and forth about coloring my hair. It's dark brown with white, aka salt 'n' pepper, with a prominent white streak in front. Whenever I color it, I immediately regret it because, like you, the regrowth is apparent within days and the upkeep is exhausting. Right now I'm wearing a pixie cut in my real color -- think Jamie Lee Curtis -- and I love it. I have a long narrow face and can't wear long hair.

    Your red hair is pretty but pardon my bluntness in that it looks very artificial. I think you'll rock silver hair, go for it! White, silver, or gray hair can be gorgeous if it's healthy, thick, and shiny. Some women think just having long hair will make them look young, but if hair of any color is dull and straggly then it looks witchy and aging.

    Many women are aghast and angry at other women letting their hair go natural because they themselves are too cowardly and insecure to do it. Misery loves company. Be true to yourself and let your silver shine!

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  36. I am gonna be likely dealing with grey hair in my thirties, thanks, genetics! I'm sure at some point I'll go grey and let nature have it's way/ for now I'm content killing my hair with colors, I also have 10 years till I hit 30 so I have plenty of time to do so. Funnily my boyfriend hasn't a shred of grey hair and he's excited for it to turn white, wish he had my hair genetics so his white hair dreams could come true

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  37. You are the age I was when I got tired of paying for expensive highlights every 2 months. The hardes part for me was transitioning - keeping enough highlights in to prevent the ugly harsh line of demarcation but not so much to perpetuate the old color. I had about three "transition" rounds of progressively fewer and less intense highlights, then finished off with a chop - 10 inches of length removed. I hadn't seen my natural color since high school, and you know what? I liked it. The base color was a little darker than I like, but the silver and white coming in lightened it up enough to offset that. I have no regrets about letting my gray hair grow in. Seriously. I don't think it makes me look old and I really don't miss all that time in the chair spending big bucks on color.

    Not that my opinion should matter, but I think you would look lovely with silver hair. Only one way to find out, right? And if you don't like it you can always color it again. But I'm guessing you'll find that you don't miss it any more than I do. The bonus is that once you stop coloring it all the time your hair is healthier and shinier and requires less work. I love it.

    Bottom line? Your hair, your decision. If you want the change, do it!

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  38. I'm pretty shocked that people think they can tell you what to do with YOUR hair. I think it's awful that we have to hide this completely natural process because of the current societal norms. It seems to me that when you feel that you CAN'T wear your hair the way it grows out of your head or fear social consequences (...people think less of you, you're ugly), that is a problem.

    You might not think this is comparable, but I have fine, thin, curly, frizzy hair. I have short hairs along the hairline that curl upwards like devil horns and never grow to full length. They're impossible to pin back. From time to time, people feel the need to comment -- that I should perm my hair. That I should straighten it. That I should cut it off. From when I was a kid, I learned that I should be embarrassed about my hair, it was bad hair.

    I think it comes down to reframing what you see as beautiful. It can be really hard when so many other people (indeed our whole society) seems to be shouting at you a certain image and rules of what is beautiful. But -- what happens on your head is nobody's business but your own. You are the only person that you have to please. "It's just hair". If you wanted to dye it purple to express yourself, that is your business. If you wanted to keep dying it red, that's for you to decide. If you want to show your beautiful gray, you are the only opinion that matters. But, if you want to try it out, but feel that you can't, you're losing your style, your expression of self, your freedom.

    It can be really hard, looking in the mirror for the first time, and seeing something completely different. You'll have to give yourself time mentally reframe. Rediscover your hair. You are beautiful, red hair, gray hair, no hair. Give yourself time to reacquaint yourself with your hair, release your expectations, and just smile at how it is.

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  39. Hi, I don't think I have commented before! I am 48 now and let my hair go totally natural (i.e., grey!) about a year and a half ago. Before that I colored it with semipermanent dye. It was a bit of a chore, plus it washes out, so all my towels were always kind of gross looking. I didn't think I would be ready to go gray until I was in my 60s, but my husband encouraged me to let it go natural. He actually LIKES the gray. I have mixed feelings about it. On one hand, it is easy, plus I don't really care. I have also had a lot of women come up to me and tell me how great my hair looks (I am not naive. I realize this is actually code for "You are way braver and perhaps stupider than I am to let yourself go gray like that"). On the other hand, there is no mistaking me for a younger person now. No matter how fabulous the gray hair may look, it ages you. People will think you are old! But, hey, it is the cycle of life, right? Good luck!

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  40. Last Month I used color oops to remove Loreal HiColor Copper-Red, and Hilights Copper I had for 6 months. When My roots grew in I bleached them and a little bit of a slight beige hue where I was only using The Loreal on before. I used Argan One n Only 9A & 10A mixed to make a gorgeous Silver like you had in the photo above. If you are trying to transition and your hair is healthy you may want to try it! I believe you will look lovely in your future silver hair.

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